Regulating my child's behavior

Oliver is a happy, confident toddler. He gets over his initial shyness with new people quickly. He is quick to smile and to laugh. He's a natural flirt. He shares well with others. He is naturally curious. He initiates games like peekaboo or chase.

But like all children, he has his bad moments. For instance, when he is done with his dinner, he will try and give one of us the plate to take away. If we don't take it from him, it gets tossed or swept on to the floor. He does a lot of sweeping food on to the floor in frustration. While he is not a particularly fussy eater, he does have his strong preferences. Not to his preference = sweep. We are quickly getting to the time when we can't really go out to eat with him. We need to work on both communication and manners.

He's got quite an arm and he's big on showing it off. It's not such a problem when he's throwing a ball and you are ready to receive it. But when it is a spoon, fork, sippy cup, book or you are not ready to catch, it can be a problem. We need to work on teaching him not to throw at people.

I just don't really know how to do it all.